The end of the school year was always my favorite time. We had the whole summer to look forward to with nothing but fun and adventures ahead. Our family would take a one or two-week vacation together and travel to a new or favorite place to enjoy the beautiful summer weather. As a child, life was simple and uncomplicated. My parents made all the plans and took care of all the details. As an adult, those responsibilities now fall on us.
Travel has become much more complicated through the years. If you have a disability, it could be even more difficult. For example, if you have PTSD or some kind of anxiety issue, agoraphobia, or autism… traveling can seem insurmountable. Many with these kinds of disorders find car travel to be much less disruptive and stressful. Still others continue to take conventional air transportation and just endure the inconvenience. Whichever mode of transportation suits you best and gives you the least anxiety.
Today it is common to have an emotional support animal travel with you if you have the proper authorization. An emotional support animal can minimize a tremendous amount of anxiety and make the journey so much more enjoyable. Some of the more unusual emotional support animals, such as ducks, peacocks, and potbelly pigs, may be exotic and unusual choices, but whatever helps you on your journey.
But what if you have a physical disability? Such as an amputation or ileostomy or colostomy bag issue? Can you imagine the stress of having to travel with this kind of challenge? I’ve seen many people with titanium legs or prosthetic hands and even feet traveling conventionally… but having a surgically attached pouch that needs emptying on a regular basis can create an enormous amount of anxiety and fear. I have a very good friend with an ileostomy bag (which collects waste from the body), and his experience with travel has helped me understand the challenges he faces and the ignorance shown by airports when going through the TSA inspections. Larger airports are more familiar with physical disabilities, but the smaller airports sometimes show little understanding of special needs travelers. Patience and calm are always a good way to approach those who have not experienced your particular disability.
The challenge for some is more than the physical but the emotional and mental challenge of getting together with family. Sometimes reconnecting with family can be the hardest challenge of all if you have history and bad blood between siblings or even parents. How do you prepare yourself for a visit that may prove uncomfortable?
In my experience, I’ve found taking a friend along to family functions helpful to keep things civil and pleasant. That might not always be possible, so staying in a hotel or neutral space where there’s a refuge if tensions become too much to handle and you need a place to chill and regroup. Never feel bad about excusing yourself from a situation that becomes overwhelming. Visiting with family can be a most wonderful and fulfilling experience, but if it becomes more than you can handle, give yourself a way to retreat and relax.
It’s important to remember that large crowds and noisy gatherings can escalate anxiety and make you feel vulnerable. Know your limitations and stay within them. Summer is a great time to get out and enjoy the weather and the freedom of vacation. Recognize when you’ve had enough and give yourself time to rest and relax. Keep a positive mindset and outlook! Enjoy your summer and be proud of your disabilities! The world is big enough for everyone!!
David Shelton
Freelance graphic artist and sign designer. 66-year-old retiree who lives in Arizona with his husband, Tom.
I have also been a cartoonist, comedian, and have created articles in publications throughout the United States. My focus in retirement is primarily health, fitness, and laughter content.
I create my content based on my own life experiences.
