August might be the end of summer, but it’s also the start of Anal Pleasure Month. And while the topic might be taboo in some circles, there are some things you should know whether you’re trying it for the first time or the hundredth time. Here are some of your biggest questions and the answers to help you and your partner have the best time possible.
What is the best lube to use?
Lube is always a good idea. But when it comes to anal sex, it’s a must. Depending on the duration of the activity, you may need to reapply a few times. Water and silicone based lubes are recommended. But if you are using silicone toys, stick with water-based ones. Silicone-based lubricants can deteriorate the toys over time.
What should I do to prepare?
People’s minds usually go to one place when thinking about sex with the back end of the body – poop. But our anatomy doesn’t really work that way. The only time poop is in the rectum is when you are actively voiding. Otherwise, it is stored higher up, which means it shouldn’t be a problem. But if there’s any concern, you can always use a mild enema beforehand.
Another thing to consider: If this is your first time with anal, you may want to test the waters first with a butt plug. Basically, start small and go from there. Many types of butt plugs exist, and a quick internet search or trip to your local toy shop can be very informative. Just be sure it has a flared base; otherwise, they can easily slip in and get lost. If this happens, you will most likely need to seek medical attention.
Do I need to use protection?
The answer is, of course, yes. Safe sex should always be practiced no matter what kind of sex you are having with your partner (or partners). Latex or internal condoms will help protect you and your partner from sexually transmitted diseases. And be sure to use a water or silicone-based lube as oil can break down the condom making it less effective.
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Is it going to hurt?
Open communication with your partner is key. Talk about what is going to happen and be sure everyone is comfortable. Relaxation is also important. Set the mood. Start slow. And don’t forget the lube – lots of it. If you feel any pain or discomfort – stop. You can always try again later. Just don’t go to vaginal sex after anal sex without cleaning up first. Otherwise, it could transmit bacteria into the vaginal canal and cause an infection.
Overall, remember to have fun, and anal play isn’t just for August. With these helpful hints, you can have fun with your partner all year and beyond.