If you’re like most people, you probably have a list of New Year’s resolutions a mile long. Sure you have good intentions about keeping them, but the list really isn’t anything you’d enjoy doing. Exercise more? Ugh. Eat healthier? Meh. And let’s be real: By now you’ve probably given up on that resolution anyway, haven’t you? But what if you added a resolution that was sure to spice up your year? Now we’re talking! And, specifically, we’re talking about sex. If 2021 was a bit of a bore in the bedroom department, we have some sure-fire ways for you to take things to the next level and knock 2022 out of the park. Check out this list of ways to improve your sex life. Take your pick and have fun seeing what works for you.
Kegels
For women, strengthening your pelvic floor muscles can increase blood flow and sensation. For men, it can help to hold an erection longer. If you’re not sure how to do a Kegel, practice it the next time you go to the bathroom. The same muscles you tense to stop the flow of urine are the same ones activated when doing Kegels.
Talk More
Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader! Commit to telling your partner what you like, what you want, or what you want to try. Try checking in once in a while to make sure you are both getting what you need. That includes talks about frequency as well.
Change It Up
Try changing one thing every time you have sex, or just every time you’re looking for a little something extra. Try a new location, a new position, a new toy, or a new persona. Let your imagination run wild.
Go On a Sex-cation
Sure you’ve heard of a vacation or even a stay-cation but, why not try a sex-cation. Daily responsibilities, family obligations, and work stress make intimacy hard at times. Set aside a time where you can take a few days off with your partner to reconnect whether it be an actual vacation to another town, a night in a hotel, or just a locked away weekend where the focus is just the two of you.
Go Back to the Basics
If you’re feeling in a rut or it’s been a while since you and your partner have been intimate, try going back to basics. It’s hard to dive into sex when you’re feeling disconnected. So, try holding hands, hugging, or spending quality time together. And, hopefully, all the physical closeness will draw you both back into the bedroom.
Get In Touch With Yourself
Solo play is a great way to understand what you like. Take some time to explore and learn more about your body whether it be with your own hands or a toy. Then, when you are with your partner, you’ll be able to give him some helpful pointers.
Pencil In A Date
You’ve heard it before, but it’s time to put it into practice. Try scheduling sex. It might not seem like the most romantic way to get back to the bedroom, but it helps to have a time in the books. Life is busy. And it will definitely give you something to look forward to.
Christina Montoya Fiedler
Christina Montoya Fiedler is a news writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She’s a mom, wife, blogger, former publicist, lima bean hater, and coffee drinker extraordinaire — but not necessarily in that order. You can follow her on Twitter @cmf2009.
