Whether you’re in a romantic or sexual relationship, pleasure plays a vital role in maintaining sexual and mental health. Orgasms release feel-good hormones like dopamine and oxytocin and can uplift moods, therefore having a positive effect on your mental health. But orgasms do not have to be the focus of every encounter. Physical touch is just as important, creating a sense of security, longing, and desire. If you’re wondering how to amp up your pleasure, here are a few surefire ways to keep the dopamine flowing.
Open Communication
The average human cannot read minds. So, it is likely that your partner does not know what you like or want in bed unless you verbalize it. Be a direct and active listener, and truly hear what your partner has to say. Good communication is a form of self-advocacy. Never be afraid to ask for what you want (or don’t want).
Exploration
There’s nothing wrong with testing out new ways to achieve pleasure. If you saw something “interesting” in a movie or magazine, ask your partner to try it with you. Just make sure all parties involved are comfortable.
Touch
Not all encounters need to end in sex. There’s a lot to be said for cuddling. Just touching your partner is a pleasurable act.
Change It Up
If you find that your sex routine is stagnant, try switching things up by changing locations. Sex doesn’t always have to happen in the bedroom. Trying things in different places and settings can up your pleasure.
Take Your Time
There’s nothing wrong with a quickie, but savoring the moment and upping your foreplay period can help make the big event even more pleasurable.
Use Lubrication
Many women suffer from vaginal dryness, which can make sex uncomfortable (read: opposite of pleasurable). Invest in a good lubricant.
Christina Montoya Fiedler
Christina Montoya Fiedler is a news writer based in Los Angeles, CA. She’s a mom, wife, blogger, former publicist, lima bean hater, and coffee drinker extraordinaire — but not necessarily in that order. You can follow her on Twitter @cmf2009.
