How to Incorporate Sensuality In Your Love Life, Using All Five Senses

We live in such a fast-paced world with many distractions and tasks that take up our attention. It’s no wonder that many people struggle with focusing on one thing at a time. Because of that, it’s very easy to lose our ability to remain present in the moment and take in every detail of our environment and surroundings. This is where sensuality comes in. Not to be confused with sexuality, which mostly refers to physical intimacy, sensuality refers to the way we find fulfillment of pleasure through our senses.

If you’re wondering how to incorporate sensuality into your love life, using all five senses, here’s how:

Touch

You can enhance touch by choosing specific sheets that help add to the sensual aesthetic. The type of sheets you want may vary depending on your style. For example, if you want to feel like  your skin is gliding effortlessly and luxuriously on the bed, then you may prefer silk sheets. If you want a more cozy and soft feeling, cotton sheets are for you.

Taste

Sure, we may pop in some gum or breath mint beforehand if we know we’re going to have a steamy makeout session, but there are other ways to explore the sensations of our tongues. The most obvious example is food. Next time you’re at the grocery store, add some whipped cream, cherries, or even ice cream to your grocery list. You can experiment with these foods by putting them on your partner’s body and licking them off your partner’s skin. You can also simply eat the food regularly and then makeout with them, paying close attention to the way the texture of the food lingers on each other’s tongues. Your sense of taste can also be incorporated in other ways during sex by using flavored lube or flavored condoms.

Sight

Lighting definitely has a way of setting the tone for a romantic experience, which is why it’s recommended to invest in soft, diffuse lighting. Instead of having the lights completely off or completely on, try only allowing the light to shine from a lamp, or try having sex near the window during sunset. Those sources of soft lighting will add to the sensual aesthetic and make you feel more confident and present in the moment.

Sound

Aside from bed squeaking and moaning, there are other ways that you and your partner can include sound in your sex life for a more sensual experience. A lot of you likely had some sexy music on your Spotify Wrapped, so use that as inspiration to make your own sex playlist. Not only does the beat and instruments of music set the mood, but it can also give you a little more freedom to make more sounds of your own if you’re usually cautious about making about being too loud with roommates nearby. Another thing to explore is talking during sex. Next time you’re dirty talking to your partner, whisper into their ear to send a sweet shiver up their spine.

Smell

The aroma in the room is perhaps the most underrated part of a romantic experience. Generally, people are aware of how foul smells can affect the mood, but not many people give much thought to how pleasant and specific smells can heighten an experience. Try becoming more intentional about the fragrances in your space. Lighting candles or burning incense can change the dynamic from a common experience to an invigorating one.

Also, a diffuser or pillow spray are perfect alternatives for candles, so capture these scents for specific purposes:

• Vanilla, which correlates with a greater increase in sexual arousal
• Peppermint, which can raise energy levels and reduce nausea
• Lavendar, which promotes relaxation and helps alleviate stress and anxiety

With that said, incorporating sensuality in your love life doesn’t only have to be in the context of your relationship with your partner. You can also use sensuality as a tool to romanticize your life in general. Regardless of whether you want to create more sensual experiences for yourself or your relationship, get in the habit of noticing your five senses in more contexts. Listening to the birds chirping outside when you wake up and notice how that makes you feel. Take a moment to stretch and hold your body, paying close attention to the sensations each movement or touch brings. Watch the sunrise while you’re eating dinner instead of watching a show on TV. Practicing mindfulness daily can help add more sensuality to our lives.