A Guide to Picking Out Your First Vibrator

A vibrator can be a valuable tool to enhance personal pleasure and help achieve more orgasms, especially if you’re a woman. In fact, researchers at Indiana University reported in a 2009 study that 53% of American women between the ages of 18 and 60 have used a vibrator. Considering how many years have passed since then and how much more accepting our society has become in terms of sexual wellness, it wouldn’t be surprising if the number is much higher.  

But if you’ve never used one before, going to your local sex shop to pick one out can be an intimidating experience. Depending on the store you go to, you might be surrounded by anything from large, exaggerated dildos to sex toys in the shape of emojis. The possibilities are endless, which is why it’s important to have an idea of what you’re looking for and a good understanding of what’s available to help you achieve your pleasure goals. 

Types of Vibrators 

From bullets to rabbits and everything in between — there are tons of different types of vibrators on the market to choose from. Here’s a breakdown of the most common types of vibrators and how they’re typically used: 

Vibrating Dildos 

Vibrating dildos are slightly larger and longer than most vibrators and are generally used for penetrative pleasure. Dildos typically have a phallic shape and many models that are molded and shaped to fit the realistic look and feel of a penis.  

Things that make dildos stand out: 

• Has a more “human” look than most vibrators  

Things to keep in mind: 

• Usually less powerful than other vibrators due to the penetrative nature of these toys 

Bullet Vibrators 

Also often referred to as “egg” vibrators, these toys offer direct, pinpointed stimulation Though small, the versatility of these toys makes them invaluable as they can be used for both clitoral and penetrative stimulation.  

Things that make bullet massagers stand out: 

• The small size makes them travel-friendly 
• Inexpensive pricing 

Things to keep in mind: 

• Usually has a low battery life 

Dual Vibrators 

Dual vibrators typically have two main functions: to stimulate the clitoris and penetrate the vagina. Also, their features come with varying speeds, patterns, and even corkscrew motions. Though dual vibrators may seem intimidating at first glance, they’re worth the investment to explore your body’s reactions to the stimulation of multiple erogenous zones. 

Things that make dual vibrators stand out: 

• Multi-faceted design and functions 

Things to keep in mind: 

• May take longer to get the hang of 
• Usually pricier than most vibrators 

Wand Massagers 

Though originally labeled as neck massagers, wands are known and loved for the powerful vibrations they achieve. Due to their bulbous shape, wand massagers are typically used for clitoral stimulation and muscle relaxation. 

Things that make wand massagers stand out: 

• Discrete design 
• Ideal to use during sex with a partner 

Things to keep in mind: 

• Usually pricier than many vibrators 
• Not ideal for penetrative use 

Finger vibrators 

As the name implies, these massagers fit onto the finger for external stimulation. Finger massagers are especially great for clitoral stimulation, but you can get creative and use them to stimulate other areas of the body, like your nipples. They’re also among the most convenient vibrators to use during sex with your partner.  

Things that make finger vibrators stand out: 

• The small size makes them travel-friendly 
• Offers precise stimulation with rumbly vibrations 

Things to keep in mind: 

• May take some time to find the ideal fit 

Anal vibrators  

Anal vibrators are used to introduce anal pleasure. They come in the form of butt plugs, anal beads, and even anal sex starting kits. 

Things that make anal vibrators stand out: 

• Introduces pleasurable nerve endings in an area you may not explore as much 

Things to keep in mind: 

• Remember, lubricant is essential when exploring anal play 

Other Things to Remember When Using Your Vibrator 

When choosing your next vibrator, pay close attention to the quality and materials with which the toy is made. Always purchase toys of high quality. High quality toys are non-porous, non-toxic, and made of body-safe materials like silicone, glass, or steel.  

Also, regardless of whether or not you’re using lube during sex, it’s a good idea to use it with sex toys! Just be sure you’re not using a silicone-based lubricant on silicone toys because silicone lubricants can cause silicone toys to degrade over time, especially low-quality sex toys. 

In terms of proper hygiene, most sex toys can be cleaned with mild antibacterial soap and warm water. If you prefer to use a toy cleaner instead of soap, look for a water-based cleaner that’s both alcohol and paraben-free.  

Now that you’ve gotten a run-down on sex toys, this is your time to explore your desires in new ways and let your orgasms reach their highest sensations whether that’s through using vibrators after a long, stressful day, setting aside some time just for exploration purposes, or incorporating them into foreplay with my a partner. Remember, sexual exploration is a journey and the more you understand your sexual preferences, the better you’ll be able to take control of the pleasure that your body deserves.