Life can sometimes feel like one big, screwed up game of telephone.
You heard from Shirley who heard from Darren who heard from Denise that double bagging your junk is like doubling down your defensive line. Well, what you don’t know is that Denise from down the block? She isn’t even entirely certain herself that it’s a 100% fact but she’s certainly not going to admit that.
So how do you sift through the BS to find that nugget of truth? We can’t do it all for you, but we can start you off with 4 sex myths that continue to be spread daily:
1) You can wash and reuse a condom at least once
Alright, so we understand the thought process behind this – if there are no visible holes or tears in the condom, why wouldn’t it be safe to wash and reuse? Think of it like…a piece of tape that you use to stick something to the wall. Say you need to peel off the tape and place it on another part of the wall. The tape still has its original functionality – just at a much lower, less effective level. Condoms are the same in that yes, technically it’s still a physical barrier between partners but you can’t count on it to do its original job as well. If you’re worried about running out of condoms, use our free condom program! Orders are discreet and quick.
2) Most women have orgasms through intercourse alone
Formula for sexual disaster: Guy meets girl, girl brings guy home, girl and guy have sex, guy cums and girl….fakes it? Doesn’t cum? Commence major awkwardness. (Bonus: guy and girl slowly but surely fall out of touch and never speak about it again). In this example, both parties end up feeling inferior sexually and, most importantly, the woman can feel broken or as though something is really wrong with her. However, according to a comprehensive analysis of multiple studies, only 25% of women consistently orgasm from intercourse alone. 20% of women seldom, if ever, have orgasms and around 5% report never having the big O. The best way to debunk this myth?
Explore. Explore your own body, explore with a consenting partner. Communicate what feels good and what feels bad and ask for what you want to have done to you. Remember that the clitoris is literally designed by nature for pleasure alone and there are many ways to stimulate it. Have fun and, above all, know that you are not alone and you are not broken.
As a quick aside, did you know that not all women have vaginas and not all men have penises?
3) Size is the most important factor to good sex
Continuing the conversation from the last point, a lot of myths are centered around a pretty old and irrelevant idea that the only good sex is successful sex between a man and woman. We’re willing to bet good money that you’ve heard that “size matters” at least once in your life. Let’s just get rid of that idea all together. What matters is the way in which you use it! Also, there are plenty of other ways beyond intercourse to give (and receive!) pleasure. At the risk of repeating ourselves, the best way to debunk this theory is to be open minded and to explore. Be as open as possible when communicating your fears and concerns – oftentimes, your partner isn’t the one who has an issue with your size.
Check out this article on sex positions great for smaller penises to start off your self-exploration!
4) The best way to avoid getting pregnant is to use a condom
Trick myth! While the mighty condom is around 98-99% effective, when used properly, at preventing pregnancy and other STIs/STDs and there are other methods such as an oral contraceptive, spermicide, and IUD’s available in the market the only 100% foolproof way of not getting pregnant is (drumroll please…) abstaining (not having sex)! Now, we know that you have needs and those needs need to be met, so we’re not going to try to convince you that abstinence is the only option. Sex is a beautiful, healthy, and wonderful thing that should be celebrated! We just want to be clear that if you are having sex, there is always a window of opportunity for pregnancy/STIs/whatever it is that you’re afraid of.
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